Prepping for Sleep's Next Visit

I haven’t spoken to my friend Sleep (that’s his real nickname) since just after his Yule visit. We had a confrontation! And he and I worked it out, but then we just needed some space– at least I know I did. I’ve so had it with people pulling shit on me and I just couldn’t deal for a few months.

Well– he reached out this weekend to ask about another visit. He likes to get out of Portland and be outside in the relative quiet and space here, and that’s been a thing for many years now. It looks like the last weekend of April will work out, so he’s coming then.

Happily, Cat and discussed this and agreed that we needed to have a discussion with him about our triggers and come up with some strategies going forward that works for all of us, including Sleep. Like, he can’t accuse me of being manipulative, given my issues of being accused of being “secretly evil” by my asshole of a father. A better idea if he worries about that is to simply ask me what I’d like to see happen. Just ask me my agenda! I’ll say it– eagerly even!

If we can find our “easily stuck points” in conversation, maybe we can avoid some of the pitfalls of overwrought emotional interactions. Another one is that none of us is easily taking advice from each other right now. (I have people on my “safe for advice” list, like Hazelwindows and Josie, but generally right now I’m pretty closed to it for a while.) So Sleep needs to not impose his advice on either Cat or myself, because it comes off as patronizing and degrading. If we ask him, he can give it, otherwise–? He needs to pull back.

I will write him an email letting him know we’re planning on 2 or 3 hours of going over some things, and I’ll give him the parameters for it so he can be prepped and able to fully participate and not feel ganged up on or like we ambushed him. I’m trying to prevent problems here, not start them! So we’ll see. He’s generally pretty good with this sort of thing after lots of practice in Sassafrass sessions back in the day.

But to begin with, Cat and I both need to be on board for this. She can’t try to get him on her side like she did last time by pulling bullshit moves. It went really bad for HER last time too! She started trouble and then Sleep jumped in and I… finished it for them both because I’m done with that type of shit. I was at “dumping you as a friend” level of angry, so I was 100% serious!

See… I do not want things to go off the rails like that again. I would very much like to prevent a repeat. For one thing, I’m sure a repeat would be me telling them both to fuck off forever and… that’s not where any of us want to be. It’s worth it to take the time and trouble to head this off and make sure we don’t revisit that ugly space.

Another reason to do this personal work now is that communication I got from “Thor” (supposedly, I’m always both open and skeptical). I haven’t heard from any gods or spirits or anything in a while, but there was a strange period there where we ALL got messages. Thor told me in December of ’24 that Sleep would be moving in with Cat and I (because he would have to) in two years. Like, almost exactly. And last December, I was giving Sleep a reading that laid out how this year would go and the cards came up that he would be moving out of where he was living now and end up with us– in a year! Which is December of ’26 on the button. So far, everything I’ve been told from the booming voice of Thor has come true. So–! Sleep may be moving in and just in case he does, it would behoove all of us to work shit out well beforehand.