My essay can help and heal millions who suffer from having too much hatred for and fear of other individuals made in the image of God.
Hidden and damaged emotions, buried in a sea of pain, HURTS EVERYONE.
Children, teens, and adults can hide from their hidden and damaged emotions (avoiding the trauma in their lives) that get buried in a sea of pain that THEY WANT TO AVOID. George Bernard Shaw said, “Most people go to their grave with their music inside them.”
My friend told me that it seemed strange that someone could BLOCK-OUT certain hurtful life experiences that were SO PAINFUL that they would no longer have conscious access to that painful memory.
My friend went to a psychologist when he was 50, and it was 30 hours a week at 6 hours a day. On Friday, he was thinking to himself, “Am I wasting my time and money?”. He said to the counselor that he thinks there is someone his age in his past when he was in foster care from age 3 to 7 that he would like to meet again now. He also said she would now be a middle-aged young grandmother, a little overweight, maybe with gray hair, but when he knew her, she was young and pretty. Then he said the only thing worse than never being able to see her again is if she is dead. He then burst into tears.
He had suppressed those subconscious memories of a pretty, little 5-year-old girl for about 45 years. He was unaware of her existence for most of his life and wouldn’t let anyone take her place.
In grade, middle and high school, he never talked to anyone in the hallway before or after class, walked anyone home, never called anyone, and never asked to study with them (male or female). He only has one memory: a woman holding him up on her hip so that he could see the little girl in the casket.
She was like a sister to him, and we dearly love each other!!! She is either another child in foster care or the daughter of my foster parent. She said she is with Jesus, and he is thinking that Jesus KILLED HIS FRIEND (which didn’t comfort him). But what is really worse is that she ignores him (she won’t look at him from inside the coffin). He FELT SO CRUSHED in spirit, for she is REJECTING HIM.
He was afraid of taking another chance with females and losing his little friend HURT TOO MUCH, and if he did try to be friends with other females (his age) and they weren’t friendly, then he felt rejected 1,000′s of times in his life. Now that he knows she exists in his past, he no longer embraces or projects untrue thoughts THAT ENTER his mind about what is true or real in the present situation or circumstances.
He did tell his counselor that he is glad this child WAS A LITTLE GIRL who died around 5 years of age. Since he had emotional problems that he was stuck in, his teenage years (hitting puberty) would have been VERY CONFUSING to him. Fortunately, the love of his life was FEMALE, but he, FOR MANY DECADS, couldn’t have a normal relationship with other females. he was an extrovert at the Boys Club and YMCA, but in all his schools, he was an introvert, and an ACADEMIC FAILURE, and a high school dropout.
There are millions of counselors, religious leaders, and parents worldwide who want to help children of God (meaning all humans) get healing concerning their damaged emotions buried in a sea of pain.
There are 2 groups I am concerned about (1) Straight individuals who in America have a 50 % DIVORCE rate. This means their group is very dysfunctional people of faith and are not living the abundant life that Emmanuel (meaning God with us) wants them to experience.
These are straight individuals, but they are not more spiritual or righteous than the LGBT groups (who also are people of faith, for very few individuals are atheists). And the LGBT groups are not more sinful than the straight group individuals. For all humans are sinners in the hands of a LOVING GOD.
Every human conceived will be in the New Heaven and Earth, for they were Redeemed by Emmanuel, our Savior and Lord God Almighty, 2,000 years ago, AMEN !!!
(2) Gay and lesbian people of faith are also made in the image of God, their Creator. But it appears that gays and lesbians have given up on being able to give and receive intimacy with the opposite gender mate. They have tried to bond with them but have been hurt too much.
The best person to understand me is another male. In 2015, all US states recognized same-sex marriage. I believe after 10 years of these marriages that, the DIVORCE RATE will have fewer divorces in the LGBT groups, and straight marriages will have more devastating divorces. The gay and lesbian groups have an advantage over their straight male/female group because the LGBT groups have the advantage, for 2 males and 2 females will better understand how to meet the emotional needs of their partner. Neither group can say they are more emotionally or spiritually mature.
Many decades ago, a boy joined a Boy’s Club or YMCA when they got older in order to grow emotionally with the same gender and protection from a sexual predator female who could seduce them during puberty. And parents knew their child was safe while away from home. Which created a decline in STDs, unwanted pregnancies, and the birth of any child; by their hot and horny single teenagers.
I think straight and gay/lesbian people need to deal with their hidden and damaged emotions so they can produce children with a mate. In the LGBT acronym, the “B” stands for bisexual (bi means 2 sexual genders. The 107 gender identities currently listed for 2024 on Wikipedia, I perceive, are all related to dysfunctional families raising dysfunctional children and grandchildren in a pagan amoral society where individuals do not love God, themselves, their country, or their neighbor.
Straight and gay/lesbians are tempted to give up on having a loving, caring mate. If a straight single or married male and female couple engaged in the same romantic actions of two males or females, they would consider THEIR physical actions AS FOREPLAY. Mating implies sexual intercourse that can lead to pregnancy. It is wrong to consider ALL LIFESTYLES equally advantageous or beneficial.
The above friend I talked about IS ME.
The phrase “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” originates from Alfred Lord Tennyson’s poem. If I had been born 15 years years ago, and I am now 15, HOT, and HORNY with raging hormones, I PROBABLY would think I was born GAY.
Since I could not recall any conscious memory of a blond 5-year-old boy dying when I was 5 years old. When I was a teenager, every time I would see a blond teenage male taking a shower at school, I am pretty sure I would think I was born GAY because I loved this little boy as a brother, and my emotions confused me by mixing or combining a child experience with post-puberty sexual desires.
So, if my blonde 5-year-old friend had been a boy, in 2024, I would be recruiting into the gay lifestyle because MY EMOTIONS would lie to me and make me REALLY BELIEVE I was born gay.
If something happened to a child in a mother’s womb, biological, chemical, or electrical, and something happened that wasn’t supposed to, or something didn’t happen, and it was supposed to, I am guessing that that would alter the child emotionally (for better or worse).
But I don’t think the child would be like the bisexual, who can choose to conform to the 90+ % straight male or female or be like a gay/lesbian member. Anyone can meet my male sexual needs (male or female); as long as there is a lubricant and pleasurable friction, I can have an orgasm !!!
Gays and lesbians can have a loving mate if they get healed of their damaged emotions that are buried in a sea of pain. God gives us options, and we can learn to give and receive EMOTIONAL INTIMACY with the opposite sexed gender !!!
P.S. A bisexual male can express emotional intimacy with a female, thereby expressing and proving the fact that it is POSSIBLE FOR HIM to have a heterosexual relationship with a straight-loving female. The converse is true about a bisexual female with a straight-loving male. Therefore, no one is doomed not to be able to change one’s mind and actions !!!
I had two encounters with women walking a dog. One woman said, “This is a rescue dog who hates children” (but is friendly with me, a man). The other woman commented that her dog is a rescue dog but is afraid of me.
If I told them their dog was born that way, they would think that statement is absurd, ridiculous, illogical, and UNTRUE. Children kick it, throw rocks at it, or shot it with a pellet gun. An adult male abused the other dog. Both dogs were tormented, tortured, and abused to where they couldn’t have a normal healthy relationship with either a child or a male adult.
I don’t think very many gays or lesbians REALLY believe they were born that way. Most are people of faith who don’t want to OWN UP TO being severely damaged spiritually, emotionally, or physically by males and females, so they say, “GOD MADE ME THIS WAY.” Just pray they get healed in spirit, mind, and body !!! If not, then marry your SAME GENDER PARTNER.
Sincerely,
Arthur Trafford
Visit my Facebook BLOG
P.S. For a better understanding of OTHERS, by understanding YOURSELF, then read the “Personality Plus” book by Florence Littauer, and her daughter Marita Littauer has several self-help books published.
The information will help you in your dating or married life; ENJOY!!! Anyone can hurt us, both genders, younger, same age, or older, for anyone can bully us in spirit, mind, or body (so it’s good to understand their personalities).
https://thepersonalities DOT com/
Before It’s News® is a community of individuals who report on what’s going on around them, from all around the world.
Anyone can join.
Anyone can contribute.
Anyone can become informed about their world.
"United We Stand" Click Here To Create Your Personal Citizen Journalist Account Today, Be Sure To Invite Your Friends.
LION'S MANE PRODUCT
Try Our Lion’s Mane WHOLE MIND Nootropic Blend 60 Capsules
Mushrooms are having a moment. One fabulous fungus in particular, lion’s mane, may help improve memory, depression and anxiety symptoms. They are also an excellent source of nutrients that show promise as a therapy for dementia, and other neurodegenerative diseases. If you’re living with anxiety or depression, you may be curious about all the therapy options out there — including the natural ones.Our Lion’s Mane WHOLE MIND Nootropic Blend has been formulated to utilize the potency of Lion’s mane but also include the benefits of four other Highly Beneficial Mushrooms. Synergistically, they work together to Build your health through improving cognitive function and immunity regardless of your age. Our Nootropic not only improves your Cognitive Function and Activates your Immune System, but it benefits growth of Essential Gut Flora, further enhancing your Vitality.
Our Formula includes:
Lion’s Mane Mushrooms which Increase Brain Power through nerve growth, lessen anxiety, reduce depression, and improve concentration. Its an excellent adaptogen, promotes sleep and improves immunity.
Shiitake Mushrooms which Fight cancer cells and infectious disease, boost the immune system, promotes brain function, and serves as a source of B vitamins.
Maitake Mushrooms which regulate blood sugar levels of diabetics, reduce hypertension and boosts the immune system.
Reishi Mushrooms which Fight inflammation, liver disease, fatigue, tumor growth and cancer. They Improve skin disorders and soothes digestive problems, stomach ulcers and leaky gut syndrome.
Chaga Mushrooms which have anti-aging effects, boost immune function, improve stamina and athletic performance, even act as a natural aphrodisiac, fighting diabetes and improving liver function.
Try Our Lion’s Mane WHOLE MIND Nootropic Blend 60 Capsules Today. Be 100% Satisfied or Receive a Full Money Back Guarantee. Order Yours Today by Following This Link.
Is this essay “Hidden and damaged emotions, buried in a sea of pain” being SHADOW BANNED ???
This would mean that the employees of Beforeitsnews are VERY EVIL for not believing in “Free speech,” and they are amoral and don’t have a religion that works.